Marriage Advice

Since I've been married approximately two years and a half, I am TOTALLY qualified to dish out some advice. Right? I've seen a lot on the blogosphere about how to know when you've found the right one and then how to keep him once youve got the wedding bliss over, but -honestly- most of the advice is crap. Write him notes on the mirror? I have to clean that ish up later! Never ride in a car alone with a member of the opposite sex? Sounds trusting.... 

BLECH. Let's focus on the first part. Knowing when you've found the right one. 

Ya know how I really KNEW? Sure, this guy was handsome, funny, charming, brilliant, warm, caring and matched my sense of humor. But, I KNEW Mike was the one because I always wanted to share what I was doing with him. "Girl Time" or "Me Time" just wasn't as fun as doing something WITH him. Then, we went on vacation together and it was just..easy. I want to sit next to him on the couch while we watch TV, I want to explore every nook and cranny of this world with him, I want to go buy groceries and laundry detergent, etc. Don't get it twisted, I like going to Target by myself, and I love my salon trips and hours to myself. I'm not dependent on him, but i dont crave that time away. Make sense?

I know it's cliche but I 100% feel like I married my best friend. When things are good, I want Mike around. When things are bad, I want Mike around. When things are scary or tough - I want Mike around and I know we'll be fine because we have each other. 

All photos by Megan Clouse Photography. Isn't she just amaaze?

I'm not sure it's a good thing to be Unicorn Tears

Today is arguably the worst day of the year. We've all been on vacation for a nice long break, and now we all have to trudge back in there and pretend we don't do it begrudgingly. Just me? I'm the only one who'll be moving a little slower this morning? Sure. Ok. Fine. You lie, but I'll take the fall. 

I fully believe in the work to live lifestyle. I haven't always fully ACTED on that belief it as I spent most of 2015 living to work - putting in way to many hours, eating crap food, and barely ever working out. My eyebrow fell out (something very weird that happens when Im too stressed), my skin started to hate me, I gained more weight than ever and just stopped enjoying life. I did get a 5/5 on my performance review. Those are given to the top 1/2% of the company but my boss told me when I received it "I didn't even know these existed til now!" and spent the rest of the month refering to me as unicorn tears. Because Unicorns are rare, but unicorn tears are super rare. Was it worth it? I dunno. I can't really say so? Yeah, I got a nice bonus and I enjoyed getting a raise but I missed my husband. I miss cooking, blogging, spontaneity and weekends.  I miss going on adventures on the weekend because we're both to tired for anything but catching up on the house and sleeping. I really wanna end that. 

I want 2016 to be the year that I get my "life" back. How? By actively coming into this space more. By traveling/seeing MORE (I'm looking at you West Coast Bucket List). By taking care of myself more. 

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